Atheist and Theist Beliefs To Cause Arguments

labibakarim
Dec 22, 2014
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Atheist or a believer can form controversies. God or no God?

Kevin Retiza (22), studies civil engineering in Wolverhampton University. Retiza being in a relationship with an atheist had caused downfalls and barriers to their relationship.

“Her atheism did not really effect what I practice, but as far as religion went I remember lots of arguments really,” he said.

His partner did not believe in the existence of God, which Retiza could not cope with after realising his Christian religion is a huge part of his life. Retiza said, “I don't think I can date a girl who doesn't believe in the same thing as I do, it is a huge part of me and someone that is an atheist could probably change a few things”.

Retiza explained how he would not regret taking the chance to marry a girl from a different faith, yet doubted how their marriage would carry out in the long run.

“If I did have feelings for her then yes maybe, but I would have to question as to how the marriage would work out. So for example if we did have kids in the future how would we raise them? What would they believe in? Would they believe in what their mother believes in or would it be according to my beliefs?” Retiza said.

Retiza stressed on how it is important to believe in God or some sort of faith. “For instance if you look at all the self-righteous people those who are faithful and those who aren’t probably ended up being quite depressed or sad; although there is Stephen Hawking who did not and Einstein who did.

“I guess I have had a lot of examples in the past that it is better to have faith than to not have faith, because it never hurts to have some faith I guess, it has never hurt anybody. It takes a lot of humility to forgive someone”.

His parents were not aware of his relationship, as Retiza described it as a teenage phase. With his parents being religious they would accept the relationship but would have opinions.

“They wouldn’t really do anything about it; they wouldn’t care as long as I don’t change myself. It’s really important to be yourself in a relationship on the whole, may it be interfaith or not”, he said.

Retiza explained how a relationship should not be kept a secret from parents, “it would probably be insulting to her, or what she believes in and it questions the commitment to the relationship I guess.

“Why be in relationship if you have to hide it?”

Retiza advised others who are in interfaith relationships to “just be yourself, compromise, meet in the middle. Don’t keep it a secret and let everyone know – Either that or the relationship might not turn up that well”.